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I haven’t connected in a while because some pretty significant things have been going on and I needed a break from emails, social media, socializing, and well just about everything.
I’m writing from my family cottage in beautiful Muskoka where I am taking two weeks to rest, reflect, and regroup. I am so very lucky to have this place to retreat to.
Writing is something I love (and often hate) so I thought that while I have no other pressures, it was a good time to let you know what’s been going on behind the scenes.
Family: My mum celebrated her 90th birthday in January and passed away in June. Her health had been up and down for the last year so while it was very sad, it wasn’t a surprise. But it’s definitely a loss that it takes time to adjust to. If you’ve been reading my emails for a while, you’ll know that I try to look for the gift or opportunity in every experience. I’ll write more about this later but for now, it was a gift to be with my siblings throughout this experience.
Consulting: I am thrilled to be working with the Burlington Performing Arts Centre as interim executive director. It is so fun to be in an arts space again. I’m learning so much and I’m very happy to be lending my skills to help BPAC in their leadership transition.
Coaching: The spring cohort of Calm Confident Nonprofit Leader wrapped up in early June. As always, I am blown away by how Mental Fitness practices combined with group coaching creates huge benefits for nonprofit leaders whether they are challenged by major life transitions or day-to-day activities.
One participant said: “What a difference!!! I had such a good productive day and had two potentially difficult meetings, which went quite well because right before them I did PQ Reps.” I’m excited to be launching a new cohort in the fall.
Last but not least, I want to acknowledge the tremendous stress that comes with being present to the many conflicts happening in the world right now. I often feel that there is nothing I can do about world events (that’s a Victim saboteur response) and the impulse to look away is very strong. I would like to urge you and me to remember what to do when things are hard:
- You can be informed and set boundaries. Doom scrolling, engaging with trolls, or arguing with cranky Aunt Gladys will only deplete your energies and well-being.
- Focus on one or two causes that matter to you. Donate, write to your MP/MPP, or protest. Do what feels right to you.
- Give your emotions space. If you are angry, be angry. If you are sad, feel sad. Emotions are meant to be felt and moved through your body. They cause trouble when they are blocked or ignored.
- Eat your vegetables, get lots of sleep, move your body, and get outside. You are less likely to self-sabotage when you are rested and healthy.
I’d love to hear how you are doing. What is challenging you or what is bringing you bliss? What would you add to the list above that helps you stay present without overwhelm? |
