Three Reasons Your Personal Boundaries Don’t Work (And How to Fix Them)

Three Reasons Your Personal Boundaries Don’t Work (And How to Fix Them)

“Thank you for thinking of me but I’m not available at this time.” This is all I wrote when I declined to write a graduate school reference letter for a former colleague I had worked with briefly. I had been brooding over my reply for a couple of weeks. I was...
Don’t Forget to Celebrate That You Forgot!

Don’t Forget to Celebrate That You Forgot!

Pop quiz time! On Saturday, you promised yourself to walk every morning before work to improve your health. On Friday, you realize that you forgot to walk for the last two days. You: Criticize yourself for being forgetful “as always!” Commit to double-up your steps...
Transform Your Inner Critic: How to Stop Judging Others

Transform Your Inner Critic: How to Stop Judging Others

As I headed out to work elsewhere, I ran into my neighbour in the condo lobby. “Must be nice to be able to go out for fun instead of sweating all day like I have to,” they said in a unfriendly tone. Yikes! My face got hot and my stomach flipped over. Two signs...