In my last post, we explored how to identify your saboteur patterns—those internal voices that keep you safe but small. Maybe you recognized yourself postponing that major donor call, over-researching instead of writing, or talking yourself out of personal experiences you actually want to try. Now that you can predict how your saboteurs operate, you’re […]
Congratulations! You’re making progress with setting boundaries. You’re saying no to time-wasters and energy drains. You’re saying no to tasks and people who violate your principles or don’t contribute to your vision and goals. Now, you see space opening up in your calendar and more mental bandwidth for what matters most. So why aren’t you […]
“Thank you for thinking of me but I’m not available at this time.” This is all I wrote when I declined to write a graduate school reference letter for a former colleague I had worked with briefly. I had been brooding over my reply for a couple of weeks. I was surprised by how resentful […]
Pop quiz time! On Saturday, you promised yourself to walk every morning before work to improve your health. On Friday, you realize that you forgot to walk for the last two days. You: Criticize yourself for being forgetful “as always!” Commit to double-up your steps this weekend because “no pain, no gain!” Give yourself a […]
Sitting at brunch, I was stunned to hear my friend tell me exactly what kind of friend and colleague she thought I was–a terrible one. “You missed my 40th birthday party,” she said. “You haven’t been there for me at all; not at home and not at work. I don’t even know why I bother […]
As I headed out to work elsewhere, I ran into my neighbour in the condo lobby. “Must be nice to be able to go out for fun instead of sweating all day like I have to,” they said in a unfriendly tone. Yikes! My face got hot and my stomach flipped over. Two signs that […]
My client said, “Sometimes a worry gets stuck in my mind and then I start to spin out.” Spinning out. Stuck in a loop. In a tizzy. Sound familiar? There are a lot of ways to describe that feeling of being stuck in a mental loop, replaying past mistakes or worrying about future problems. […]
I woke up a sweaty mess today. The air conditioning in my building is broken and now, with the sun barely up, my condo is 28 C. Did I mention I have a south-west facing space? It is only going to get hotter. My first response was a spurt of judgement. “This happens every spring! […]
Still on that fence about mental fitness? No worries! Still have questions about the Calm Confident Nonprofit Leader program? Here are 4 reasons to choose mental fitness today. Isn’t stress just normal for adults, especially leaders? Sure, stress happens—but constantly feeling overwhelmed isn’t natural or inevitable! Psychology shows that much of our stress is self-generated […]
I haven’t connected in a while because some pretty significant things have been going on and I needed a break from emails, social media, socializing, and well just about everything. I’m writing from my family cottage in beautiful Muskoka where I am taking two weeks to rest, reflect, and regroup. I am so very lucky to […]